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At some point it is likely that you will have to contend with going back to work, unless you are lucky enough to be the main carer. When returning to work many dads find it hard at first to leave their baby and exhausted partner. But however much you want to be at home with them, work is also important, as like most families you probably rely on a regular monthly income to survive. You will adjust although it can be hard, lots of Dads and Mums joke that they go to work for a rest and it may feel that way at first as meeting the demands of a newborn are trying.

If you find it difficult to return to work talk to your partner, it is not a bad thing to want to be there to see your child grow, you never know there may be ways that you can change the situation to improve your time with the family.

The job that you did and the hours that you worked may just not suit your new role as a Dad, think carefully about what will make you all happy, above all else talk to your partner she needs to know what you are feeling after all everything has changed for her too.

For more infomation on your rights as regards pay and leave check out http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parents
 
 

Jo's story
 
Before I was pregnant I had a very good job which I enjoyed.  When Max came along I fully intended to have it all, bouncing baby and a thriving career.  Boy was I mistaken!  I returned to work but found it totally mind numbing, I spent most of my time wishing I was at home with Max, it will get better everyone told me but no luck. If anything I started to resent having to go to work and my husband for not earning enough to support us if I stayed at home, nearly half my wage was going to the nursery and I had no idea of what was going on there.
 
Then it came to a head when Max fell and had to be rushed to hospital, I felt so guilty and decided that something had to change!  It was so simple and yet it never entered my head, Part Time!!  That was it, because it was only three days a week my mum said she would have Max, it couldn't be better.  Now I enjoy going to work and I am not filled with guilt and worry as every day I know he is safe, healthy and very happy. In fact, I think he has more fun with his grandma than he does with me!  I cannot understand why I felt so much pressure to return to my old life as if nothing had changed.  It is just not possible to have it all and I now realise that, it is all about balance. 

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