(1) Miscarriage Story
Pete - lost his first child through a miscarriage at 12 weeks
After reading lots of woman’s stories on miscarriage I thought I would share my experience. I wanted to tell a story
of how "it does get better". I know it seems crass and it doesn’t seem like it at the time, but trust me it does, slowly
it does get better.
I am a lucky man, I have a wonderful wife and a great son, nice home blah blah, my life isn’t
that bad. Nothing in the world can prepare you for the tragedy that is a miscarriage.
No one tells you what it feels
like to be told you are going to be a father, it’s like no other feeling in the world. We were elated. Names were picked
for boys and girls. I was talking to my wifes tummy, all of this at only 8 weeks. We went for the scan, started telling
people, and then it happened. My wife started bleeding.
I know it sounds selfish to say this but I was so scared, annoyed
and angry all at the one time. Not with my wife, but with God the universe or whoever had caused this, such ridiculous things
run through your head.
I was embarrassed that we had told every one and now had to tell them the bad news. I
felt sort of ashamed that we weren't pregnant and the fact that it was only a 12 week pregnancy. If one more person said “at
least it was only 12 weeks" to me I would have lost it. It doesn't matter how long the pregnancy is. At what point it "fails"
It is still a life to its parents.
I often wonder when I look at my son, what his big brother or sister would have looked like, would have been like. Now three
years on the pain of the loss is less and both my wife and I talk about the experience and I think that talking and sharing
our greif is the main thing that got us through.
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